Among the general population of kids and teenagers, anxiety is at an all-time high and self-esteem is at an all-time low. The reasons for this epidemic run deep and are not easily addressed, which makes it all the more important that moms and dads (the #1 influence in the life of a child) regularly do what you can to speak words of affirmation and do little things on a consistent basis that affirm your child’s sense of self-worth. Here are ten simple ideas:
- Catch them doing something good and call it out.
- Practice saying phrases like, “You are so good at…..”, “I love the way you…..” and “thank you for……”
- Refuse to compare them to other siblings and children.
- Set healthy, consistent and sustainable boundaries. This lets your children know you care about them which improves self-esteem.
- Be interested in what THEY are interested in.
- Be a good listener. Listening is a key way to show that you value somebody.
- Take your child on a “date” at least once a month…let them choose the activity.
- Discipline, don’t punish. Punishment is meant to penalize and cause pain; discipline is meant to promote growth.
- Speaking of discipline and punishment…look for opportunities to surprise them with grace and mercy when they expect the opposite.
- Keep them involved in church! No church is perfect, but being part of a Christian community of peers is vital for the spiritual, emotional and relational health of your children.
Next Gen Pastor at Saddleback Church
In youth ministry since 1988, Kurt Johnston has been at Saddleback Church since 1997, and currently supports the kids and youth ministry teams. Kurt has written almost 100 books, resources, and training curriculum to help encourage other pastors serving the next generation. Kurt and his wife, Rachel, live in Southern California and have two adult children.
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